Went on a date, here are some notes:
Limiting beliefs:
- Don't touch her, it's weird, you're not high energy
- Don't highfive her, or hug her, it's weird
- Don't kiss her or get too close, it's weird
- Don't tell her she looks cute and you're thinking about kissing her.. it's weird.
- Don't tell her you want to do anything sexual to her, it's weird.
*If you continue to look so cute, I'll be forced to try and kiss you later*
- You can't, because she's smoking.
- Use it as a barrier and instead say: Too bad you're smoking, or else I'd probably try and kiss you right now... but you're smoking, so it's too bad ;)
* ADD KINO TO STRAWBERRY FIELDS (HOLD HANDS, ETC)
* Eye contact got more over time = she grew more comfortable
* TEST TO GO FOR THE KISS... when holding eye contact slowly go in... slowly... see if she pulls back. If she doesn't = green light.
- You don't HAVE to kiss her... but now you just know you can.
- As long as you do it slowly. Slow is key.
Biggest failure: You didn't kino, that's why the gap to a kiss or even sex felt so great, and THAT's why it felt weird.
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What I did right:
- Didn't feel like going, felt REALLY tired (Almost felt like sleeping).
- Felt really nervous.
- Nervous when she opened the door, and on greeting.
- Felt more comfortable after some talking... (After getting to know her a bit)
- Strawberry fields (Even though I totally messed up the first one, it still went awesome -> SHE'LL EAT ALL OF THE STRAWBERRIES AND SCREW THE FARMER!)
- Questions game (Went sexual with questions, but she went backwards (non-sexual), so I took that as a hint as her not being ready... even though she answered the sexual questions truthfully, I should've pushed. But I kept thinking: "I don't want to be the creepy sexual guy that's only thinking about sex.", even though I should RISK CREEPY.)
- Qualified sexually during the questions game ("Craziest place sex... lemme guess, foot of the bed", her: "Noooo, on the beach ;)")
- LOL! She asked me what are the 3 most important things in a relationship. It came out so fast, almost like I had pre-rehearsed it (She didn't caught on, but that's how I felt about it haha)
- Honesty, trust & respect. - Credit; David X
- She agreed.
- Set all the right frames:
- Non-judgemental
- Adventurous
- Independent
- Good at keeping secrets/discreet
- Baited her to invest (Still haven't heard any jokes ;))
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