2012-01-08 - Field Report (Same Night Seduction stuff)

Just got home from a night out. Didn't approach much, but had 1 noticeable interaction:

Friend introduced me to a girl he just met. Exchanged names.
Danced with her a bit, real close. Twirling and intertwining my fingers with hers.
At this point I knew she was interested.

3D escalation:
Me: "You're called what? Huh? Sorry can't hear you, let's go somewhere more quiet"
*Grabbed her hand and walked to the smoking area*
Sat on a chair, grabbed her hands and put her arms around me. She had her arms around me throughout the entire interaction.
I kept caressing her hands, stroking them, interjecting them with mine, etc (All that sexual kino awesomeness)

Me: "so you're really called Flower?"
Her: "Haha yeahhh"
Me: "That's SO awesome! It's not short for anything?"
Her: "Nope, I'm actually called flower :)"
Me: "haha awesome"

*At this point I spilled my drink on her shoulder while hugging her and trying to take a sip*
I apologized with a smile and thought to myself: "WTF am I doing? Fuck this drink, I don't need or want something to drink... I got a girl to play with now. This is awesome :D"
So I put my beer on the table besides me and focused on the girl. (Later my drink got taken away by the bartender... I couldn't care less)

Setting sexual frames:
Me: "So what do you do for fun?"
Her: "Uhm... I dunno, go out with friends, etc"
Me: "Ah a party girl, that's cool"
Her: "Yeah and I jog"
Me: "wow... so you're a sporty girl.. I like that ;)"
Her: "Yeah haha and you?"
Me: "My passion is psychology"
Her: "Ah oke"
Me: "You're pretty cool, let me try a psychological test with you, it's called the strawberry test"
*Strawberry test*
:She eats ALL the strawberry's... hehe, dirty girl ;)
Her: "It's like a real test right, you're not just saying this to hit on me?"
Me: "Yeah, it's a real test"

Creating sexual tension:
Me: "Wow, you're really cute, it's a shame I have this rule that I don't kiss in clubs, else I'd totally kiss you right now"
Her: "Haha"

Logistical question:
Me: "So who are you here with?"
Her: "My friends you just saw"
Me: "That's cool, so how do you know eachother?"
Her: "From school"
Me: "Alright awesome, so you all have like your little secrets"
Her: "What do you mean?"
Me: "Well... if you're all from the same school, then you all gossip a lot about who's hooking up with who, etc. I know how you girls are ;)"
Her: "haha yeah..."
Me: "Well that's cool, cause I don't judge"
Her: "What do you mean, I don't judge?"
Me: "Well... I don't judge" (Should've explained that people should be free to do whatever they want to do, without judgement)

Baiting to invest:
Me: "So, beautiful girls never tell me jokes, it's a shame, I think you should tell me a joke"
Her: "Uhhh.. I'm not sure... well... I know this one joke"
Her: "blablabla"
Me: "Huh? I couldn't hear that, what did you say?"
Her: "Hahaha, nevermind, it's nothing"
Me: "No, tell me"
Her: "Nooo, nevermind :)"
Her: "Do you know any jokes?"
Me: "Yeah... so an American and an Italian speak to one and other, the American says: 'Give me some screws and I'll build a ship for you'. The Italian says: 'Give me your wife and I'll make sure it has a crew on it'."
I look at her silently, she looks at me, gravity hook
Her: "Huh? Sorry, I didn't hear the first part. I thought if I heard the second part I'd understand it, but I don't.. sorry :)"
Me: "I repeat"
Her: "hahaha"

Lighting the fuse:
Me: "Alright.. well, it's a shame, because I'm talking to you this whole time and all I can think about is playing on my Nintendo Wii. Have you ever played Wii sports?"
Her: "Yeah!! it's awesome"
Me: "Isn't it? :)"

Logistical question:
Me: "So how did you get here?"
Her: "With a cab/metro, I live at blabla"
Me: "Ah, so you're going back with the metro/bus too?"
Her: "Yeahh"

Baiting to invest:
Me: "You look like you give great hand massages though"
Her: "Hmm.. you want a massage?"
Me: "Yeah"
*Gravity hook: I look at her silently so that she'll feel the tension and wants a release, which in this case is done by giving me a hand massage*
Her: "Right now?"
Me: "Yup" *grab her hands*
*She starts caressing my hands*
Me: "That's pretty good, but I give it a 6 out of a 10"
Her: "A 6?!"
*Starts playing with my hands even more*
Me: "That's much better... awesome ;)"

Rewarding her investment + creating more sexual tension:
Me: "This feels really good... watch."
*Stroke her hair aside and gently tug the back of her hair*
I could actually see her getting really turned on, she was staring into space now with a huge smile on her face haha

Creating more sexual tension:
Me: "You know what though... screw the rule I have... I totally wanna kiss you right now"
*Stroke her hair, gently tugging her chin towards me trying to kiss her*
She rejects
Her: "Noooo, I don't kiss random guys in bars!"
Me: "Hi, I'm Coldman. So now I'm not some random guy anymore"
*Try to kiss her again*
Her: "Nooo :D"
*I look at her silently, triangular gaze for like 30 seconds, try again*
She rejects
*I stroke her hair away instead and bite her neck*
Me: "Well.. I think it's awesome that you're not so easy, I like that about you"
Note: This is actually a bad thing to say. Now she's inclined to "play even harder to get", because I told her I like that. Something better to say would be:
"I like that you're hiding the fact that you want to kiss me."
or "It's okay to be shy ;)"

Baiting to invest + reward:
Me: "So what do you do besides going out? Like work"
Her: "I work in the supermarket"
Me: "haha that's awesome, so you do it just for the money or because you like doing it?"
Her: "Well, more for the money, but I like the job as well :)"
Me: "That's awesome"
*Stroke her hair away and bite her neck again*

Pull:
Me: "So... I think you're pretty awesome, let's go play Nintendo Wii"
*Grab her hand, trying to pull out of the club*
Her: "haha, noooo, I got to go to my friends"
Me: "That's alright, but before you go, you have to give me your number"
*Exchange numbers*
Me: "Save me as 'Coldman Strawberry', so you know it's me ;)"
*some more fluff so she knows I wasn't just doing it to get her number*
Me: "Alright cya... wait, in Italy we do 3 kisses to say goodbye"
*3 kisses*
Me: "And if I see you again, you owe me a dance, cause we haven't danced yet ;)"

*Goodbyes*

Later on I text her:
Me: "Hey, what are you doing?"
Her: "I'm going home with the bus, and then I'm going to bed haha. And you?"
Me: "I'm gonna throw an afterparty at my house, you should come?" (I wasn't really, was just trying to get her to come over)
Her: "Nah way too far, I'm at my own house!"


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Things I forgot and could have done (better):
- Roleplays
- "It won't get weird"-frame (Did all the most important frames with strawberry fields, but forgot the: "It won't get weird"-frame)
- Other important sexual frames (objections) to remember:
-- Pregnant/STD
-- Stalker
-- Discreet (Check: I don't kiss in bars, but seeing as your friends aren't here, it'll be our little secret)
-- I don't like ONS (One night stands)
- blaming sexual aggressiveness on her

- Set-up a day 2 right then and there based on common interests.
  -- Cooking
     -> What's your favourite type of food?
     -> Imagine us having a relationship, what would you cook?
     -> Oh wow, you got me curious now, we totally have to make that together now next thursday night.
     -> Dinnerdate @ your place
  -- Movies
     -> You like watching movies?
     -> What's your favourite (type of) movie?
     -> Have you ever seen 'X'
     -> You haven't? Oh wow, we're totally gonna see that movie next thursday night.
     -> Moviedate @ your place
    ---- Also grab her Facebook so you can see if she's still as hot as you remember the next day (Also builds more comfort if she can see you, and builds you up if you have a cool profile)

- What are you doing later?
  -- and: What time do you have to get up tomorrow?
- More 3D escalation (Bought her a drink/slapshot)
  -- or bought her a drink in another venue (or at my house) -> More 3D escalation

- What needs to happen for us to hookup tonight? (Or for you to come play Nintendo Wii)
- Just so you know... you're coming home with me tonight. ;)


Quick note:
I need to approach WAAAAAAAY more.
More approaches = more chances with girls = more chance of a girl having good logistics to take home.
Don't hesitate, just go for it.

School Camp

School camp was awesome!

I'm okay with leading perfect strangers. Some examples: When playing soccer I instantly took charge and told them what I wanted to do: "Alright, let's play 'tienen'" *to the group*. And then some people said alright let's do that, some people disagreed and wanted to play something else, but what's important is that I instantly led the interaction.
Led during the scavenger hunt; walked in front, took the map, saying let's go here, let's do this.

It all comes naturally now.

I held back "game"-wise, (they are still classmates, don't want to be the "weird" dude). This means that I didn't go direct with words like "sexy", etc. Though after getting to know some girls I still said it. Just not TOO soon, on opener. Not sure if I ever will go direct on campus... I mean, school is like social circle, do you ever go cold approach direct at a house party? That just seems fucking weird to me. Plus reputation is a huge thing in school, I think. How to incorporate "not giving a fuck", with being careful about what people think about my reputation? Hmmm, still not sure. Maybe just do what's familiar and what has worked in the past, and stay away from the more risky "game" stuff. Leave that stuff for clubs/streets. In other words; calibrate.


My openers were indirect/situational. Was comfortable in every conversation. Comfortable with silence, other people filled in the void. And basically just let conversation come to me, saying whatever was on my mind. Commenting on surroundings. Making jokes whenever they arose. (People not laughing at my jokes is a HUGE turn off for me... my jokes are funny, you just don't share the same humor, it's okay. :))

My openers were stuff like:
- *after a teacher spoke* "What did he just say?"
- "Hey, do you know what we're eating tonight?"
- "What's on the agenda for today/tomorrow"
- "Would you happen to have a cigarette for me?"


Topics we talked about: Relationships/sex, hobbies/aspirations, what's going on at camp (how they liked the scavenger hunt for example), vacations, etc

At times I just decided to say: "fuck my current group", and just sit with a random group of girls (IT'S NOT WEIRD). This was awesome as it expanded the range of people I know. Plus it allowed me to not get into that dreaded zone where you go to camp, and only know a bunch of guys/geeks and stick to them the whole way through (and even through school)

Overall my objectives were met. Socialize with hot chicks. I didn't force anything (cold approach), I could/should have done it (indirect/situational approach), but I'm still satisfied with the way things worked out;
Made some awesome friends, collected numbers at the end, could have fucked a cute chick if she didn't have a boyfriend (who knows, maybe someday if the sexual tension stays present and we're in a room 1on1, pretty positive I could break her in that situation haha, dunno if I want to break up a happy 2 year relationship) and got a dinner-date pretty soon with a cool/hot/single chick.

With dinner-date girl, I also kept making roleplays/references like: "These houses here look awesome, we should go live here". And she mentioned she had a mosquito problem, so I said to her: "Alright cool, remind me to bring lemons when I sleep over, else I won't survive the night." (In the back of my mind if she objected I could've went direct: "Yes, eventually we're going to fuck.", or the better route in that situation would've been to say: "Yeah, after you give an awesome party, I don't wanna go home, so I'm gonna stay over, if you don't mind ;)", with no sexual intent there, obviously). But she didn't object/say anything, so..... even better. :)

How I setup the dinner date:
This whole conversation might look a bit boring in text, but the overall vibe was awesome, we had a lot of fun talking and the bus trip just flew by. One fatal mistake I made was not saying WHEN, but it just kinda flew by as: someday we'll have a dinner-date. (Not good)

Anyway, I wanted to say to her: "Let's say we have a relationship, for like 6 months, and my friends came over for dinner, what would you cook for them?", NOT as a pickup qualifying technique or whatever, I was generally curious, because.... well, I love food. But it's fucking weird to just say this out of the blue... so I took a couple of minutes to think on how to set it up so it isn't weird... and I'm a fucking genius, it went like this:

Me: "Hey, so you live by yourself... you must be a pretty good cook then?"
Her: "Obviously... you kinda have to if you live on your own"
Me: "Well, not necessarily, maybe you live on microwaved dinners or something, I dunno"
Her: "hahaha"
Me: "I suppose that IS really unhealthy though..."
Her: "Yeah :P"
Me: "Alright, so you say you're an awesome cook.... let's say we had a relationship and have been together for 6 months... and my friends came over for dinner, what would you cook them?"
Her: "uuhh... I dunno.... depends what mood I'm in, what your friends like to eat, etc"
Me: "Hmmm... alright, well these guys are my best friends, how would you impress them?"
Her: "Still dunno :o"
Me: "Alright haha, let me say it in a different way, let's say we're celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary, how would you impress ME? What would you cook?"
Her: "Well... I dunno what you like... so?"
Me: "That's true... but I'm just curious as to what is like your specialty... the best dish you can make ;)"
Her: "Hmmm... Lasagna!"
Me: "Awesome! I love Lasagna.... it's hard to make though"
Her: "Not really, how hard is it to make Lasagna? haha"
Me: "Well, some people make like Lasagna soup, and some people use too little sauce and it's too dry. And then some make it so it has no flavor to it."
Her: "Well, yeah I suppose you're right, yeah haha"
*some silence*
Me: "Man.... you got me hungry for Lasagna now!"
Her: "Haha"
Me: "You know I'm going to have to taste that awesome Lasagna you make now, right?"
Her: "Haha, yeah! :P"
Me: "Or we could just make it together... as in a date ;)"
Her: "Yeah, sure, sounds cool ;)"


I'm a fucking genius.

Crazy adventures in Spain

You're NEVER, and I mean NEVER, going to belief what has happened to me in the last few days.

First of, greetings from Spain, a country I will crown as having one of the hottest woman.

So, on to my story, I went out and went to a bunch of different clubs until I've reached one with loads of hot woman, from the start they were all very wild, crazy dancing, so I got myself over there and started dancing with this very hot Spanish chick. Immediately I start to curl my hands in hers, kinoing, all that good stuff, and we start to makeout. So after a while I say to her: ''Quiero coger tu culo, porque te amo'' (I want to fuck you in the ass, because I love you), she goes: ''wow, that's very direct!'', I was like: ''yea well... You're hot so...'', we start to dance more and I say to her: ''You want to get out of here to mine?''. And she goes: ''No..... But uhhh how you say, bathroom?''.
Me: ''Sure, let's go!'' and I start leading her.

At this point I was still in denial. It can't be this easy, she must've meant something else.

We arrive at the bathroom and we make out more and I'm thinking: ''Fuck, she didn't come here for nothing'' and I start unbuttoning her pants and well.... Need I say more?

So not only did I pull my first SNL in under 5 minutes with a very hot Spanish chick (exactly my type, nice ass, slim body, cute face) that I know nothing about other than her name, in a public bathroom in the club, but...

.... That's not even the crazy part, it gets better.

The next day we text back and forth, and I try to meetup with her. She wants it too (I was expecting a flake due to the quickness of the SNL,,etc).

So the whole night we're texting back and forth but she kept saying stuff like: ''oh, I'm dancing with friends now, sorry'', So at the end of the night while walking home I decided fuck it, I'm calling her. She picked up and was excited, told me where to go. So me and my friend start walking back towards the club. (yeah, my friend too, I thought if I'm getting pussy then so is he :p)

And when we get there all the clubs are closed, she's waiting outside with 2 of her female friends and 1 male. We say hello, I kiss my girl and we start walking along the coast of the beach. After a while they sent the other guy home, so now it was me, my friend bv and 3 spanish chicks. At this point they kept talking in Spanish, but man, some words are just easy to understand in English too.

Her friend said I should show my abs, and she was like: yea, very.. Nice! (I don't even work out and have NO sixpack at all). So I went: ''I like your friend'' and she misinterpreted and shouted excitedly: ''He likes me? Oohhh! Trio trio!''. I'm like, wait.. Did she just say threesome?

So I told my girl, no, I didn't mean it like THAT, I don't want a threesome.

So we kept walking and I don't know wtf happened but these chicks were talking in Spanish and the only words I could make out were: ''Trio'' and ''Orgy sa la playa'' (playa = beach)

My friend and I kept highfiving each other and kept thinking we were both dreaming and that we would wake up any minute, because like... Well... Wtf?

Both of these days I didn't use any game, just kino and 3D escalation I suppose.

So anyway, we got to a quiet area on the beach and they start kissing each other, they start kissing us. And somehow I landed myself in a foursome or orgy or I dunno wtf this is.

Okay well that's the cool and crazy part and I don't think anyone will believe it, but, it's a very true story. I'm still wet from the shower I took to get the sand out of my butt-cheeks and dick.

Now here comes the sucky part..... It was such a high pressure situation, with the sand being everywhere and the multiple people and all, that I couldn't get it up (only semi erect). And the fact that they kept saying stuff like: "bla bla bla disfunctionale!" and laughing didn't help either. They kept trying though, bless their hearts, kept sucking my dick, stroking, kissing, etc. But, no dice.

Oh well..... I still had a crazy time, awesome adventure and a story that will beat anyone else's story at a cocktail party.

Plus it was still fun to have 2 girls suck my dick while I look over to the left and see my friend fucking this other Spanish chick.

Priceless...

PUA - FR 07 - 2011-03-27 - Conversational Sticking Point

What I did right:
- I felt shitty, low energy, had a cold, and was REALLY nervous, but I went out anyway.
- Got to the club sober
- When girls wanted to pass without asking me if they could, I'd say: "Yeah... sure you can pass!" *While putting my hand on their waist*
    - One girl looked at me, said "Thanks", with a smile. And stayed for a sec... she wanted to talk, but I didn't go further. "She's not hot enough!", "I don't know what to say!", etc, I thought.
- Being sober I could look around, got LOADS of laughs when I made eye contact (approach invitations), you can easily see which girl is going to be receptive when you approach.
    - Even after 3-4 glasses of wine I still felt sober. (And then I got drunk and just started dancing like crazy through groups of girls and stuff, blowing myself out and just having a good time :P)
- "SANDWICH!", saw 2 girls dancing and I just pushed myself in there shouting: "SANDWICH!", they look at me like: wtf?. So I continue to push myself in there shouting: "SANDWICH!". Eventually I got 1 girl grinding in front of me, and 1 girl behind me.
- When leaving 1 place to go to another I said to myself: "This is fucking ridiculous, alright, open the next woman you see direct.", I didn't see anyone, until 1 passed me by almost near the exit so I went: "You look FUCKING SEXY!" with direct eye contact. She looked at me... thought for a second... and walked off without saying a word. She wasn't even attractive.
- Got wine in a champagne glass. Made me look like a high roller. ;)
- Made outrageous compliance tests on opening:
    - "You can't pass until you pay the toll" *Point to cheek for a kiss*
    - Made a girl hold a drink so I could go dance in a dance-circle.
    - Girl threw a drink in the air and made me wet: "Hey! You made me wet! ;)" *point to cheek for a kiss* (Got cheek to cheek kiss)
        - Also when opening her I put my hand on her neck instead of the usual hand-on-waist... she seemed to be okay with it.
    - Grabbed girls by the hips, and then moved them aside to pass through, really animated. (Even when there's LOADS of space around them, which makes it even funnier)
        - 1 chick went really easily, the other really stiff and got an angry face.

What I did wrong:
- I feel like I can't hold a conversation, and for this reason alone I don't approach. I even use this as an excuse not to go to bars/clubs alone cause I feel like if I approach I'll just be an approaching machine, going through every group with small chit-chat that doesn't go anywhere and is really really boring.
- I also didn't approach, because I felt like every time I wanted to; I could see the girl reject me in my head. Made me feel like: "Fuck it, why even bother."
- Didn't open the first set I saw.
- Was really choosy in who I opened ("No, not her, she's not hot", "No, not her, there's guys around her", etc)
    - Go direct on target, "So who are we here with tonight?", introduce yourself to the group, and focus back on her.

What I learned:
- Learned that AA is a fucking myth, I can open anyone whether I'm in state or not... it's easy. I don't need social momentum, I don't need warm-up sets, I don't need to get in state.
    - Though I still have a negative self belief that;
    1. I'll get rejected by 4/5 HOT woman. (STOP DOING CRAZY OPENERS AND GETTING NEGATIVE RESPONSES, OR DO IT AND TELL THEM YOU'RE JOKING AFTER-WARDS AND HAVE A NORMAL CONVERSATION)
    2. I can't maintain a normal conversation.
    - I opened a lot of girls, and yet I'd still not open every hot girl I saw because of these beliefs.
- Social proof is not important, I didn't notice any difference while holding a champagne glass, also while doing the sandwich only a quarter of the room saw it. The other side didn't see my social proof. Nobody cares. It's alright if it happens, but don't revolve your game around it.
- I can: Open, kino (IOM), SOI, etc, I've done it loads of times before. It's easy and not scary.
- Don't be choosy, talk to EVERYONE in close proximity (This is the best way to learn how to maintain a conversation with strangers, practice) and be sexual towards your target (Escalate the vibe = Holding face, getting closer and touch)
- Proof the brain wrong ("Your interaction is going to go great!").
    - Think about all the woman who you have successfully opened.
    - Remember all the smiles and hot girls that are willing to talk to you to support this new belief.
- Don't look for IOI's, Escalation = attractive. If she's not giving you an approach invitation, it just means she's not YET attracted. Escalate and she WILL be.
- You don't always have to talk, sexual tension keeps the interaction interesting. Just be comfortable with silence.
    - If she likes you, she'll help you seduce her... she'll try to keep the conversation going too.
    - Assume she wants your cock.
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What to do better next time:
- Bait to invest and qualify (See qualify notes)
    - Half-a-hug ("You're giving me a lousy half-a-hug back ;)")
    - "Hold this"
    - "Tell me a joke"
    - "What's your favourite place on your body to be kissed besides your lips"
- Sexual frames
    - "You look like a nice girl on the outside, but I detect a serious naughty side."
    - "You look really adventurous, kinda like the type of girl that really goes for what she wants and isn't afraid to let herself have some fun."
    - Strawberry fields
    - Story about how sex isn't a big deal and how it won't get weird after-wards.
- Say overtly sexual shit to build more sexual tension
    - You're really an awesome person, I like you, I'm really glad I met you. Don't get any ideas, I'm trying to get into your pants, but if nothing happens I'm glad I met you. ;)
    - "Too bad we're in a club, or else I'd throw you up against that couch, bend you over and take care of business... but, we're in a bar, So we can't do that ;)"
    - “you’re lucky your friend is around or I would already be fingering you right now”
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Goals for next time:
- Learn conversational topics and qualifying statements.
- Be comfortable with silence.
- Go sober.
- When you get to the club, before anything open the first group of girls you see.
    - Don't get a drink, don't go dancing, don't circle around, don't go to the bathroom
- Proof the brain wrong ("Your interaction is going to go great!").
    - Think about all the woman who you have successfully opened.
    - Remember all the smiles and hot girls that are willing to talk to you to support this new belief.
- Get rejected 25 times by having a NORMAL conversation. (Rejection = them walking away or telling you to "fuck off!")
    - Normal conversation consists of:
        - Fluff talk
        - Banter (Humor)
            - Teasing
            - Cocky & Funny (Stop undressing me with your eyes/You're just trying to get me into bed)
            - Sexual humor (innuendo's/misinterpretations)
            - Tongue & Cheek Romanticism (roleplay that you're together)
            - Irresistible asshole (looking for easy lay - goal=laughter)
            - Roleplay (We are amazing like superheroes/New GF for the next 10 min/convince other people your married or pregnant. She's your "wife".)
        - Takeaways = Punish resistance (Some girls need ZERO takeaways, some need 100. The more she likes you, the harder the takeaways can be.)
            1. We're through/Divorce/Girls like you are bad for me
            2. Statements of intent/If you stick around bad things will happen/Ignore her and give short answers
            3. You're a player aren't you?/Just so you know, I think you're fucking hot, but we're not having sex
            4. I thought you were awesome, I didn't know you were X, if that's true, then fuck this, I'm out.
            5. (Pulling), I want you to come, but I'm not going to beg you. You know I like you, either come or don't. If you don't trust me, don't come.
            6. (In isolation), Promise this won't be a one night stand/I know this sounds weird, but I'm not into one night stands/I like you, but if that's all you think I want from you after talking to you all night, then fuck this... I'm out
        - Stories
        - Cold reads
        - Qualifying statements
        - Sexual frames
        - Statements of intent

PUA - FR 06 - 2011-03-19 - Attempt SNL, got pretty close

Got to the club sober, got AA for the first 30 minutes from building negative social momentum;
Saw 2 hot girls behind me in line to buy coins for alcohol, didn't approach: -1 social momentum
started walking towards the dance floor, some hot girls walked by, didn't approach: -2 social momentum

and I was thinking to myself: "yeah approaching sucks and yeah rejection sucks, but fuck it... this night is gonna fucking suck if I don't step up right now and go do something"
then approached a girl who was passing by: "Hey, you look beautiful and I had to come meet you", her: "Yea thx, and sorry got to go meet my friends" and she started walking away
so I grabbed her hand, pulled her in close and tried to go for makeout, her: "yea cool, sorry, got to go".

After all the negative social momentum I build, this 1 approach alone didn't get me in: Social God Mode (e.g. Fuck the ego Mode), but AA was definitely less (And with AA I mean being in your head)
But at least I had less negative social momentum.

Went to smoking area, saw hot girl, and tried talking myself out of approaching again.
so I grabbed my friend and told the chick: "Hey, it's my buddy's birthday give him a birthday kiss"
she refused, but wished him a happy birthday... at this point I merged the set of my friends and hers. Go me.

Then went back to the dancefloor, saw a chick, tried to dance with her, rejected

Saw another chick, smoking hot, with 5 sorta tough guys around her, gave her my hand and tried to dance with her, rejected
so I ignored rejection and just grabbed her hand and got rejected again. (Should've gotten closer, I was way too far away from her)
I wanted to push resistance even more with the chick, but I started looking around me and for the first time in my life I was actually pretty fucking scared that I was gonna get knifed right then and there... I mean, I saw that there were 5 dudes with her and I was like; "Fuck it, it's scary and that's why I should do it.", but I didn't realize how intimidating they were until I got close and opened the chick.
I realized it wasn't worth getting knifed over, so I ejected.
5 guys laughing at my rejection, lol, who gives a fuck, I tried anyway... and I know at least 4 of them wants to fuck the girl but are too pussy to make a move, they can't judge me for trying ;)

Saw another chick, introduced myself to her AND her friends and then grabbed her hand and danced with her, went for mutual hand caressing... it wasn't mutual, but I was caressing her hand and she was okay with it.
Went for makeout, got it.
While making out I put my knee in between her legs and starting rubbing her pussy lol. Also grabbed and caressed her ass a couple of times. Got no objections.

I figured I should just try and pull her home now so I told her: "Let's go", while pulling her physically.
She asked: "Where to?"
I said: "We're going on an adventure, don't worry it'll be fun ;)"
she said: "Noooo, I do crazy stuff when I'm drunk :D"
I tried to get past resistance; "that's alright, me2, let's go ;)"
her: "Nonononono!! :D", she pulled back
so some more dancing ensued, *number exchange*

Me: "Let's take a picture"
Her: "Nooooo, I'd rather not!"
Me: "Ok cool, I like being discreet anyway ;)"

Spun her around and she started to grind on me, I told her she smelled nice, got a thanks.
Then grabbed her hand and put it on my erected cock, and told her: "This is what you're doing to me, it's your fault". She laughed.
Grabbed and caressed her ass and told her "She should stop being so sexy, it won't work on me." She laughed.
Tried to pull her again, she rejected and then she got pulled away by friends. She promised she'd call me tomorrow.

Later on I saw her at the smoking area, opened her again and build some comfort. (What do you do for fun, etc (While caressing her back, trying to turn her on))
I figured I should build some comfort else I'd never see her again outside the club (had it happen loads of times, she'll like you in the club, but the next day she won't know who you are other than the really hot "sexual" guy in the club and get flakes)

Went for mutual hand caressing again, only it wasn't mutual (wtf?), she just sorta let me caress her hands...

I figured the SNL isn't happening so I tried to setup a day2:
me: "Do you like movies?"
her: "Yeah"
me: "ok cool, on sunday me and my friends are going to see this movie in theaters, you should come",
she said she had other plans (Birthday or something)
She went on to the dancefloor, we both agree we'd see eachother on the dancefloor again, but I didn't see her and we didn't meet up.

It was funny, cause she looked like the typical "nice" girl and I thought I wouldn't get away with so much... funny how our judgments usually suck.

Later on tried some more sets to dance, but got rejected.

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My magic number = 5, not bad.
(A magic number is how many women you have to contact before you find one who has interest in you based solely on your presence.)

What to do better next time:
- Bait to invest and qualify
    - Half-a-hug ("You're giving me a lousy half-a-hug back ;)")
    - "Hold this"
    - "Tell me a joke"
    - "What's your favourite place on your body to be kissed besides your lips"
- Sexual frames
    - "You look like a nice girl on the outside, but I detect a serious naughty side."
    - "You look really adventurous, kinda like the type of girl that really goes for what she wants and isn't afraid to let herself have some fun."
    - Strawberry fields
    - Story about how sex isn't a big deal and how it won't get weird afterwards.
- Say overtly sexual shit to build more sexual tension
    - You're really an awesome person, I like you, I'm really glad I met you. Don't get any ideas, I'm trying to get into your pants, but if nothing happens I'm glad I met you. ;) 
    - "Too bad we're in a club, or else I'd throw you up against that couch, bend you over and take care of business... but, we're in a bar, So we can't do that ;)"
    - “you’re lucky your friend is around or I would already be fingering you right now”

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p.s. What does it mean when she doesn't caress your hands back, but she just sorta takes it and lets me caress hers, because this happens to me A LOT.

Is the girl shy or something? Or do I need to escalate the vibe more?

FR: Going out + free coctails = bad news

Basically had a night out where I got free coctails all night and got so drunk that I barely remember my interactions with woman.

One thing that kept coming back, however is every time I set a low risk sexual frame (You look really cute on the outside, but I can tell on the inside you have a serious naughty side) I got blown out. 
Her: Sorry, but I have to go

I think it was, because I was really drunk and couldn't handle my own state, so I said it in a really creepy turned on way.

Also I remember 1 convo with a girl and because I was drunk I couldn't calibrate her interest level, so I kept talking, but I ignored her answers. So after a while she went: Wow, could you please leave, you're talking bullshit.
So I went: No shit, I'm only trying to get into your pants.
Here the bartender told me to leave the girls alone, I could say he was jealous, but the truth is probably that I was being the "annoying drunk guy".

I also remember that I was dancing close with chicks and locking eye contact all that good stuff, but because I was too drunk I remember me going in my head: "fuck talking, I just wanna dance".
Result: Girls lost interest after a while, next time goal is to get a basic convo going (not too much, it's still dancing), and then get her from the dancefloor into the lounge area.
Basic convo is shit like: "You smell nice ;) I'm Coldman btw. *handshake and she tells me her name* are you adventurous, <girlsname>? Yes? Alright let's go on an adventure, I wanna show you something cool *take hand and lead*"
Note: A natural friend of mine goes around the dance floor, he doesn't dance; he approaches, talks, gets number, leaves... so it can be done on the dance floor.


On a sidenote: 1 of my friends threw up, and another one passed out. Free coctails ftw!

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Lessons learned:
- Don't get fucking wasted, next time: No pre-drinks (before entering the club), and no hard liquor.
- Social Momentum, get the first approach out of the way, find the first hot/cute girl and approach, doesn't matter how it goes, just get it over with or else you're either gonna be too scared to do it or you've missed your chance (Don't get a drink, don't go dancing, don't circle around, don't go to the bathroom)


On a bad night I think: "That girl looks hot, should I approach? No, wait a minute, let's really check her out and see if she's as hot as I think.... alright, she is, now what can I say? What's my opener... alright cool, and then what do I say? alright cool... wait is that a good thing to say? Maybe I should try and say this, or this, or do this kino escalation technique..."
"hmmm, so confused, why I am not approaching yet? Is this approach anxiety? fuck, this is gonna be one of those nights again where I don't talk to fucking anybody, etc"

And on a good night I think: "That girl looks hot, should I approach? Yes and... see if she's also hot up close, and see if she's interested, and see if she accepts my sexual frame, and see how far I can escalate, and..."
What usually happens is I go in, opener, have a conversation and see what comes out of it IN THE MOMENT, not in my head.


p.s. I realized something; I was approaching instant and confidently. Usually you'll receive credit for this. But because it was apparent that I was drunk I didn't... they're thinking: "well, he approached me confidently... but oh wait, he's drunk... everyone's that drunk can do that, he's not confident at all."

Some old field reports to get this blog started

Some old field reports to get this blog started and remind myself where I'm coming from.

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First field report ever (Start of the PUA journey):
PUA - FR 01 - 2009-11-29 - Blasting through approach anxiety (An aspiring PUA tale)
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/here-vp302402.html

PUA - FR 02 - 2009-12-12 - Never learned so much before in 1 night:
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/fr-2-never-learned-so-much-before-in-1-night-tips-pls-vt58112.html

PUA - FR 03 - 2009-12-18 - First time isolating and number close (No flake!):
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/fr-03-first-time-isolating-and-number-close-no-flake-vt58340.html

PUA - FR 04 - 2010-04-11 - Attraction and how it works (social proof): 
http://www.pick-up-artist-forum.com/-img-src-templates-boudoir-images-iconminipostgif-width-12-height-9-alt-post-title-post-border-0--vp344077.html
Tip: Social proof is bullshit and didn't help me AT ALL, read the field report for proof. Got some numbers, but all flaked, etc

PUA - FR 05 - 2010-11-22 - Sexual escalation
(coming soon, as this is where my game started taking a different road... from routines and being social to being sexual)