One step beyond "baiting her to invest"

I've noticed that baiting a girl to invest, either verbally or physically, is a great way for her brain to make her like you more. She's doing all these things for you, thus, she'll backwards rationalize that she must like you a lot. This has all to do with the cognitive dissonance theory in psychology.

Cognitive Dissonance is caused when a person holds two or more conflicting or contradictory beliefs about the self. When this is experienced, it causes a person so much discomfort that they will typically rationalize one belief away.

For example, a woman you have approached and attracted suddenly finds herself wanting to go to bed with you, but this conflicts with her idea of being a good girl or at least not a slut.

Or, a woman that's doing all sorts of verbal or physical stuff to a guy she barely knows. She'll backwards rationalize that yes... she must indeed like you, very much (depending on the level of investment).

If she's investing on her own... awesome. Most girls, however, will not. So you're going to have to BAIT them to invest.

How to bait girls to invest?

• Any basic form of qualification ("I like adventurous girls, whats the most adventurous thing you've done lately?")
• Telling her what you like so she can do that certain thing.
• Have her tell you a joke ("I like your humor, beautiful woman rarely tell me jokes... what's your favorite joke?)
• Bring something forward that she's already done, but frame it so that it looks like she has done it for you. ("Those heels look amazing. I know they must hurt like hell, but that's cool cause your legs and ass look amazing because of them. And it's cool that you're wearing those.... for me. :) So as a man I'd just like to say... thank you for doing that for me.")
• Give her an easy way to physically escalate on you;

• Give her half-a-hug and then tell her she's giving you a lousy half-a-hug back.

• "Hey, are you a giver or a taker? Both (or giver)? Awesome, cause you look like you give great hand massages."

I've said this in earlier blog posts, and yes, it's awesome. However when doing this I was forgetting one key element that goes beyond "baiting her to invest". I mean, I always knew this, but I never knew exactly HOW to do it.

The thing I was forgetting was to REWARD her investment properly to encourage her to invest more.

This is basic psychology applied to pickup. Imagine little kids doing something good and getting a reward for it, you'll motivate them to do that certain behavior more. If the little kid is doing something bad, you either punish it or ignore it. (Ignore it when it comes to pickup)

How should you reward her?
Basically anything that makes her feel GOOD. The level of her investment should almost be equal to your reward.

• If she's telling you awesome stories, she's investing verbally, then your smile/laughs and warm energy should make her feel good.
• If she's caressing you, or any other high level investment, then you could caress her back (her back/arms/legs/hands/hair/etc), gently tug her hair, or anything of that nature. (She's investing by deliberate sexual touch, you have to reward it in the same way or more)

Quick note on rewards: If you've been doing something ALL THE TIME, then rewarding her with that behavior isn't sufficient. It has to be something NEW, or in any case an enhanced version of your behavior. It HAS to make her brain go: "Ah... I did this, and then he did this awesome thing in return... I want more of that. So I'm going to invest more."

Why should you encourage her to invest more into the interaction?
Simple, like I said before; she'll like you more. It will also allow you to escalate more (by rewarding her back). And... well, it just feels good when girls physically escalate on you. :)

Encourage particular behaviors you do want (using positive reinforcement), and she'll be investing a lot more into the interaction. Making your job much easier and more fun.