Your brain WILL fuck you up

Your brain WILL fuck you up, all these negative beliefs, negative thoughts that hold you back. Don't fucking listen to it, it's NOT YOU. Do what you want, without holding back. Just don't think about it, your brain is your biggest enemy. JUST DO IT.

Whatever you want to say, say it.
Whatever you want to do, do it.

Your mind is just a display of conditioning of your past, of thoughts, of things people have told you, things you've read, your own idea's, things you've watched on TV.... all of which changes.

Think back 10 years and you'll probably think; "Well, I thought I knew what was going on then, but now I'm 10 years older and now I REALLY know what's going on"

But of course, in another 10 years you'll feel like what you knew now was very immature.

We're constantly growing, therefore to trust your own mind is a mistake.

From: The Way of the Superior Man (by David Deida)

Recent example I have: I was in class, scared of going for the It's On Moment (which basically is Mutual Hand Caressing), I was thinking about grabbing this chick's hand and playing with it. But....my brain was having an inner struggle:
- "JUST GO FOR IT MAN, GO FOR IT."
# "No, don't do it, what if other people see it? What if the teacher sees it. THEY'LL DRAW ATTENTION TO IT!"
- "JUST GO FOR IT MAN, ESCALATION HAS ALWAYS ENDED UP WELL FOR YOU"
# "No, don't do it... what if she rejects you? What if... what if... WHAT IF..."
- "JUST FUCKING DO ITTTTTTTTTTTT"
# "Okay, you know what, when she places her hand real close, THAT'S when you do it.. okay?"

Finally, my brain was compromising and got to a mutual agreement. I'm gonna do it.

- "Alright, you've had your way, her hands are relatively close to yours... fucking do it now!"
# "Nono, wait.. what if she thinks you're weird and you blow it with her?"
- "Dude... escalation is the way forward, even if she rejects you, you're still moving FORWARD. JUST DO IT"
# "Nonono, butbutbutbut, what if, what if, what if"


In the end I said: "Fuck you brain", and just did it. It took me a good 15-30 minutes. And I didn't concentrate at the class that was giving, I was just listening to my brain arguing.

So I did it anyway... and she reciprocated, started playing with my hands too. It was awesome.

School Camp

School camp was awesome!

I'm okay with leading perfect strangers. Some examples: When playing soccer I instantly took charge and told them what I wanted to do: "Alright, let's play 'tienen'" *to the group*. And then some people said alright let's do that, some people disagreed and wanted to play something else, but what's important is that I instantly led the interaction.
Led during the scavenger hunt; walked in front, took the map, saying let's go here, let's do this.

It all comes naturally now.

I held back "game"-wise, (they are still classmates, don't want to be the "weird" dude). This means that I didn't go direct with words like "sexy", etc. Though after getting to know some girls I still said it. Just not TOO soon, on opener. Not sure if I ever will go direct on campus... I mean, school is like social circle, do you ever go cold approach direct at a house party? That just seems fucking weird to me. Plus reputation is a huge thing in school, I think. How to incorporate "not giving a fuck", with being careful about what people think about my reputation? Hmmm, still not sure. Maybe just do what's familiar and what has worked in the past, and stay away from the more risky "game" stuff. Leave that stuff for clubs/streets. In other words; calibrate.


My openers were indirect/situational. Was comfortable in every conversation. Comfortable with silence, other people filled in the void. And basically just let conversation come to me, saying whatever was on my mind. Commenting on surroundings. Making jokes whenever they arose. (People not laughing at my jokes is a HUGE turn off for me... my jokes are funny, you just don't share the same humor, it's okay. :))

My openers were stuff like:
- *after a teacher spoke* "What did he just say?"
- "Hey, do you know what we're eating tonight?"
- "What's on the agenda for today/tomorrow"
- "Would you happen to have a cigarette for me?"


Topics we talked about: Relationships/sex, hobbies/aspirations, what's going on at camp (how they liked the scavenger hunt for example), vacations, etc

At times I just decided to say: "fuck my current group", and just sit with a random group of girls (IT'S NOT WEIRD). This was awesome as it expanded the range of people I know. Plus it allowed me to not get into that dreaded zone where you go to camp, and only know a bunch of guys/geeks and stick to them the whole way through (and even through school)

Overall my objectives were met. Socialize with hot chicks. I didn't force anything (cold approach), I could/should have done it (indirect/situational approach), but I'm still satisfied with the way things worked out;
Made some awesome friends, collected numbers at the end, could have fucked a cute chick if she didn't have a boyfriend (who knows, maybe someday if the sexual tension stays present and we're in a room 1on1, pretty positive I could break her in that situation haha, dunno if I want to break up a happy 2 year relationship) and got a dinner-date pretty soon with a cool/hot/single chick.

With dinner-date girl, I also kept making roleplays/references like: "These houses here look awesome, we should go live here". And she mentioned she had a mosquito problem, so I said to her: "Alright cool, remind me to bring lemons when I sleep over, else I won't survive the night." (In the back of my mind if she objected I could've went direct: "Yes, eventually we're going to fuck.", or the better route in that situation would've been to say: "Yeah, after you give an awesome party, I don't wanna go home, so I'm gonna stay over, if you don't mind ;)", with no sexual intent there, obviously). But she didn't object/say anything, so..... even better. :)

How I setup the dinner date:
This whole conversation might look a bit boring in text, but the overall vibe was awesome, we had a lot of fun talking and the bus trip just flew by. One fatal mistake I made was not saying WHEN, but it just kinda flew by as: someday we'll have a dinner-date. (Not good)

Anyway, I wanted to say to her: "Let's say we have a relationship, for like 6 months, and my friends came over for dinner, what would you cook for them?", NOT as a pickup qualifying technique or whatever, I was generally curious, because.... well, I love food. But it's fucking weird to just say this out of the blue... so I took a couple of minutes to think on how to set it up so it isn't weird... and I'm a fucking genius, it went like this:

Me: "Hey, so you live by yourself... you must be a pretty good cook then?"
Her: "Obviously... you kinda have to if you live on your own"
Me: "Well, not necessarily, maybe you live on microwaved dinners or something, I dunno"
Her: "hahaha"
Me: "I suppose that IS really unhealthy though..."
Her: "Yeah :P"
Me: "Alright, so you say you're an awesome cook.... let's say we had a relationship and have been together for 6 months... and my friends came over for dinner, what would you cook them?"
Her: "uuhh... I dunno.... depends what mood I'm in, what your friends like to eat, etc"
Me: "Hmmm... alright, well these guys are my best friends, how would you impress them?"
Her: "Still dunno :o"
Me: "Alright haha, let me say it in a different way, let's say we're celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary, how would you impress ME? What would you cook?"
Her: "Well... I dunno what you like... so?"
Me: "That's true... but I'm just curious as to what is like your specialty... the best dish you can make ;)"
Her: "Hmmm... Lasagna!"
Me: "Awesome! I love Lasagna.... it's hard to make though"
Her: "Not really, how hard is it to make Lasagna? haha"
Me: "Well, some people make like Lasagna soup, and some people use too little sauce and it's too dry. And then some make it so it has no flavor to it."
Her: "Well, yeah I suppose you're right, yeah haha"
*some silence*
Me: "Man.... you got me hungry for Lasagna now!"
Her: "Haha"
Me: "You know I'm going to have to taste that awesome Lasagna you make now, right?"
Her: "Haha, yeah! :P"
Me: "Or we could just make it together... as in a date ;)"
Her: "Yeah, sure, sounds cool ;)"


I'm a fucking genius.