Loads of realisations #2

They just keep on coming... 60's and SNS are striking home... this time the biggest thing I've learned is:
Eye contact + blank stare + silence = still golden.
and
Screening for good logistics (and how fucking easy it is, if you remember to just do it)

AA stays throughout the night... the thing you should strive for is not giving a fuck when you get rejected or weird people out.
If you can instantly (or very quickly) say: "fuck it", when this happens... that's when you've reached Social God Mode.

How I was at the end, is the same as I am ALL THE TIME. The same thought patterns, the same worries, the same every thing... only difference is I say what's on my mind and don't give a fuck.
I'll admit to mistakes: Oh, I forgot your name, oh I ran out of stuff to say. I just don't give a fuck. Why? They're not responsible for my happiness... I am.
Bad body language is FINE... as long as you're comfortable. (e.g. not worrying about what they're thinking of you, e.g. in your head)
    - leaning in doesn't count as bad body language... it's just needy and bad. With bad body language I mean folding of the arms, or not dancing and just looking around for a while.

Eye contact + blank stare + silence = still golden.

Had an awesome time
Nervous at start, approached first girl sober (really felt heart racing and afterwards felt like: wooow, feel the adrenaline, that was awesome!)
    - Thought pattern after this was: "Yeah well... I approached, but I didn't go direct and I'm still a pussy for chickening out on the other 5-10 girls I saw... why is this SO HARD?!" (Next time when you get here, build it up... go indirect, chat with people, get in the mood to socialize)
Didn't approach enough... (stuck to the group I came with, or walked off and didn't approach ANY groups)
Usually go for loners (need to open mixed groups more, or 1 girl/2 guys, even try indirect and ask logistical questions at first, see how that goes. And then hit on her if she's single.)
Was sober at start, later 1-2 beers, kinda tipsy
Went direct EVERY TIME (you looked cute/nice, had to come meet you)
tried instantly for its on moment (her: "wow really forward... what... are you doing?") BUT, she was complying... curling her fingers in mine. Eventually I kinda let her go.. should've kept going and talked normally. Ignore her comments.
    - I was LOOKING at our hands when going for the it's on moment... next time, feel it out, do it but hold eye contact and talk about something else. Don't draw attention to it... do you ever kino her shoulder and look at where you're touching? No... because it's fucking weird... same goes for the IOM.
CONSTANTLY ran out of stuff to say and went in my head thinking: alright... what routine to use
SNAKEBITE:
1st girl: I didn't hear you...
2nd girl: wow... this interaction keeps getting weirder! (already felt she was kinda hesistant at first, but as she wanted to walk off I kept talking, making statements and kept reingaging her as she gave me more and more compliance... even walking back to hear what I had to say... and then I went for the sexual frame too soon, or I just did snakebite too weird...)

Direct approach, false time constraint as I sat down... later friend came in, INSTANTLY greeted him, made statement (you seem like you're from the same school)
did snakebite, her: "yeah... I'm not feeling the poison :P"

I constantly said: well... I just ran out of stuff to say (which is the truth... haha, but it's not really something that'll help me in seduction)
holded eye contact with a girl a lot while silent... got close into her face without her breaking eye contact...
tried to get her number, she didn't give it...
me: "playing hard to get... I see :P do you have a boyfriend?"
her: "no..."
me: "then there's no reason not to give me your number"
her: "uuhhhh welll.... uhhh"
me: "alright, nevermind... I can already tell that I won't see you again based on your response so.... I don't want a flaky number, I want to see you again though"
*silence*
me: "you're kinda cool though... you can be my best friend for the next... 10 minutes ;)"
her: "hhaha 10 minutes? alright :P"
me: "so... i like your sense of humor though, tell me a joke"
her: instant reply: "nooo i don't know any"
seeing as she didn't even THINK first, I couldn't tell her: aahh I saw it, it was a dirty joke... it would've been out of place.

after opener, every time I asked who they were there with and how they knew eachother and they ALWAYS complied. ALWAYS.
Who are you here with, how do you all know eachother
and how did you get here? (Bike, Public transportation)

I got AWESOME responses.... I expected girls to be all negative EVERY TIME, but they weren't... they were happy to talk to me. (Even the ones that looked like they had an attitude) Until it got weird and I got this kinda feeling that I was unwanted so I left... (usually after baiting her to invest and her not complying and then looking around with a blank expression face)

fast escalation (snakebite -> sexual frame -> weirded some girls out..)
    check
a calm reaction to resistance (look at her funny, eye contact)
    check
persistence
    check... but, should've overstayed my welcome longer... fuck social pressure, stay in there until she tells you to fuck off or leaves.
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    People are bored as fuck at social gatherings
    You're adding value no matter what when you approach (even when you're creepy you'll give them a conversation piece for the rest of the night)
- This is fucking true.... I saw people I've approached, and even though my interaction was horrible, they'd still rather be talking to me than be bored.
- How do I know this? Easy, after awkward silence and her looking away, she reingaged me.. and was investing after I baited her to (e.g. ask her question, her replying truthfully and with eye contact/smile/etc)

    So how would you act if you knew the woman you were talking to
    already liked you?
    I bet you probably held face contact, got really close to her, and didn’t
    feel the need to say or do anything special. In fact, you probably sat back
    and let her talk most of the time (qualify herself) while you smirked
    thinking “it’s just a matter of time”.
- Yup, every time I was in conversation and she answered ANY question I asked with eye contact I would assume attraction, got really close and held eye contact/silence.
- Why did I assume attraction? Easy... she wasn't weirded out after I told her she was cute/nice and asked some logistical questions/statements.
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Next time instead of snakebite -> good girl, naughty side (or different side, if it's too early)
    - If you continue to look so cute I'm forced to flirt with you later (or some more)
    - half-a-motherfucking-HUG
    - 3D escalation (GET PEOPLE TO FUCKING MOVE, NO MATTER WHAT or WHERE you are in the interaction... get the calibration, fuck up a couple of times, 3D escalation is TOO HUGE to ignore)

I noticed that I used snakebite to reward her compliance (oh, you do this/that school.. awesome! pound it! snakebite)
It's not working... or it's too soon... (or I'm not doing it right, they're not laughing...)
reward with halfahug
or reward with highfive (and go into an IOM)

"Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you wanted"
And that I did... A LOT. Imagine how much more experience I would get if I approached EVERY girl that I liked... (loud music and mixed groups are still scaring me)
Loud music because: I'm scared she won't hear me and it just not going well. (Also I can't use long questions/statements/roleplays, keep the questions/statements short)
Mixed groups because: Guys are bigger than me? lol, I dunno... I always feel like guys would be hostile towards me, even though about 99/100 guys I meet are cool guys and like me)

In order to speed up the learning process I have to:
Stay in the interaction until I get a "fuck off", or she/they walk off.
Open girls EVERY WHERE, no matter the situation.
    - And I've approached 1 girl/4 guys before (direct), so I know I can do it :)
    - And I've approached girls in LOUD ASS clubs too (direct), they liked me, they smiled, interaction fizzles... byebye cute girl, but.... I know I can do it.
- Need to write down some NORMAL lines in-between sexual frames/roleplays/investments, sorry Epik, but you told me that you go from opener to snakebite to fuck/murder/marry to roleplay.... but to me.. that's weird. I want to be normal and sexy as fuck. I'll use your stuff... but... I need some NORMAL lines too. Some normal getting to know you questions.... hmmmmmmmmm what do I want to know....? (hint: personality)

So... from the "what do you do" question/statement, you go into the: "why choose that?" or "I see, so you like helping people... you must be a really good friend... etc"

To be continued... I'm fucking tired, I'm going to bed... can't wait until Thursday/Friday. Going out alone is getting closer... once I can: Hold conversations with mixed groups (fucking easy, but I'm not doing it because of fear) and am far enough to be able to isolate girls from groups consistently.